Talking negatively about your ex has lasting effects on your children. How do I know? I have been collecting stories from children and adult children of divorce for three years now.
Agony aunt Katharine Whitehorn advises a reader who wonders how she can be more involved in her son's family life. My son, his wife and two children live one mile away, but I never see or hear from them unless I visit or telephone. My son works full-time and fishes in his time off, my daughter-in-law is a night nurse on two irregular nights a week, so sleeps for two irregular mornings.
In today's world, our ideas about gender roles have been turned on their heads. Some of those old patterns involve relationships between mothers and their adult sons. A solid relationship with a mother is a good portent for a happy married life.
Photograph: Alan Betson. We had that, so when Harvey came along. The arrival of Harvey Conway last November has brought a whole new dimension to their relationship.
My daughters, ages three and six, heard harsh words about me from the moment my husband and I separated. While there were times his anger was justified because of my choices, he went overboard in his reaction. His sarcasm was often laced with other forms of alienation, especially during his annual six-month custody period.
I try not to discuss finances or other grown-up stuff with the kids. But my ex is furious at me for leaving, and tells them horrible lies about me all the time. I worry he'll turn them against me, but I don't want to stick them in the middle by fighting back.
Verified by Psychology Today. Black Women's Health and Happiness. Mother's Day is approaching and card stores and grocery stores are filled with lovely greeting cards praising every aspect of motherhood: "You've been the best mother anyone could have," "ever-loving, sweet, kind," "always there for me," "unconditional love," "a mother's love never fails," etc.
KidsMotherhood. I came across an article the other day that made me cringe. How she never met her expectations.
Everyone knows at least one: The mean mom. She's THAT MOM who feels it is fine to openly exclude others and then post the pictures online, to spread rumorsand to stab others in the back. She may even criticize another mom right to her face, reprimanding her for everything from breastfeeding to volunteering.
Getting ready to enroll in Medicare? The challenge becomes how to find common ground without overstepping the comfortable boundaries between you. The issues become how much time to spend together and how to spend it, how much information to share and about what, which battles to fight and when to turn the other cheek, what advice to give and when silence is golden.